Thank you for the shoutout Louie! As a a neuroscience PhD, former biotech marketing leader, and a Buddhist chaplain-in-training, my newsletter helps fellow overthinkers practice *actionable* mindfulness to spark epiphanies and build better relationships.
I'm not surprised at all by how hard you worked (and continue to work!) I'm wondering how you instill the same values in your children when they are not living under as hard circumstances? Perhaps a future issue :)
Apr 17, 2023·edited Apr 17, 2023Liked by Louie Bacaj
> The last lesson is that a good family upbringing can serve you in almost any environment. I am trying hard to create a similar environment for my kids now.
I often hear this sentiment from parents, but I'm not a parent though I'd like to be some day, and I'm interested in your take...
What are some of the things you do (and don't do) to create that similar environment for your kids?
Because I imagine it might not be so easy. I know parents who say, "I don't want my kids to suffer the way I had to suffer." And then there are those on the other end who say, I'm not doing *anything* for them; they'll just have to figure out life for themselves.
The original article I read about Plenty Of Fish had a good focus on how he (unlike many software developers like us) refused to tweak the site to make it look and perform better. One example was how profile pics were crammed into the same box with the same aspect ratio, no matter what dimensions the user had uploaded. Which meant they had to click on it to see the full unskewed image. That click meant pay per click advertising, and little things like that, if tweaked for the better, could actually harm you. He essentially said "This is working, and it's very hard to plan that, and I'm not messing with success"... That plus the general argument of endlessly tweaking and improving creates endless work in the form of new features, and new bugs to fix.
Thank you for the shoutout Louie! As a a neuroscience PhD, former biotech marketing leader, and a Buddhist chaplain-in-training, my newsletter helps fellow overthinkers practice *actionable* mindfulness to spark epiphanies and build better relationships.
I'm not surprised at all by how hard you worked (and continue to work!) I'm wondering how you instill the same values in your children when they are not living under as hard circumstances? Perhaps a future issue :)
> The last lesson is that a good family upbringing can serve you in almost any environment. I am trying hard to create a similar environment for my kids now.
I often hear this sentiment from parents, but I'm not a parent though I'd like to be some day, and I'm interested in your take...
What are some of the things you do (and don't do) to create that similar environment for your kids?
Because I imagine it might not be so easy. I know parents who say, "I don't want my kids to suffer the way I had to suffer." And then there are those on the other end who say, I'm not doing *anything* for them; they'll just have to figure out life for themselves.
Love the story and your resilience, Louie! I hope your kids will have the same kind of experience and work ethic.
Great story!
> If you would not be forgotten
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>As soon as you are dead and rotten,
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>Either write things worth reading, or do things worth the writing.
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> – Benjamin Franklin, Poor Richard’s Almanac
Thanks for sharing this, @Louie Bacaj. I really love this.
I feel like refactoring that last line.
> If writing things worth reading isn't working out, maybe is time to try to do things worth the writing.
Either takes efforts.
Have a good one, Louie 👍
The original article I read about Plenty Of Fish had a good focus on how he (unlike many software developers like us) refused to tweak the site to make it look and perform better. One example was how profile pics were crammed into the same box with the same aspect ratio, no matter what dimensions the user had uploaded. Which meant they had to click on it to see the full unskewed image. That click meant pay per click advertising, and little things like that, if tweaked for the better, could actually harm you. He essentially said "This is working, and it's very hard to plan that, and I'm not messing with success"... That plus the general argument of endlessly tweaking and improving creates endless work in the form of new features, and new bugs to fix.